How to Deal with Nervousness

How to deal with nervousness

Evernote Snapshot 20121022 070909I’m standing Monday morning at checkpoint D at the Charlotte airport and it’s a zoo. I’m cutting it a little late trying to make my flight to Boston and I’m a little nervous. I know people say planning ahead helps to alleviate nervousness but what do you do when you’ve missed that window and you’re in the middle of the chaos?

1. Control Your Focus

How you focus determines how you feel. That means what I am feeling right now is a by-product of what I am currently focusing on.  This is awesome news because I don’t have to be a victim to my feelings.  I can change my focus and my feelings will follow!
Don’t focus on how you could have done it different. When you’ve reached this point there is nothing you can do about it anyway. Focus on currently what’s going well.  I am convinced no matter what situation you’re in, there is something good you can focus on.  You’re in charge of your focus, so take charge!

2.  Control your Physiology

I’ve discovered that I not only can think my way into new behavior but i can also behave myself into a new way of thinking. Begin to simply behave in the way that relaxed people do.  When I’m in these situations I try to behave like a relaxed person.  I smile, chuckle a bit and take deep slow breaths. When you learn to calm your breathing, you can calm your thoughts.

3.  Control your Questions

The quality of the questions you ask yourself determine the quality of your life. When you’re in the midst of the situation ask yourself, “what’s going well?” or “what’s the next step?”  By controlling the questions you ask yourself, you are actually controlling your thinking.  Don’t ask yourself questions like, “Why does this always happen to me?” or “Why didn’t I make a better decision?”  Honestly, there aren’t good answers to these questions anyway, so stop asking yourself bad questions.  When you get a new question, you get a new perspective.

How do you get out of nervousness?

Are you stuck in frustration?

Are you stuck in frustration? Wasting time reacting to others instead of focusing on what matters most?

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