What Does Drama-Free Living Mean to Me?

“So what does Drama-Free living even mean to you?”  This question came from a team member that had been with me for almost a year.  It took me by surprise. I thought I had shared my heart and assumed he knew. And then the lightbulb went off.  If it wasn’t clear to him, how could it be clear to anyone? We’d worked closely together, and still, he didn’t know.  Somewhere I assumed that he figured it out. And you know what happens when we assume! This question caused me to go back to the drawing board and ask myself:  Why am I so passionate about The Drama-Free Lifestyle?

I want to help people move forward.

I’m an action-oriented person.  My top strength in the Clifton StrengthFinder is Activator. I score a 10 in Quickstart on the Kolbe A Index.  It tells you I’m a person of movement and action. I’m passionate about helping people create their next steps.  If we’re not moving forward, I’m frustrated. It’s the fog of drama that causes people to stall out.  People do not move forward when they’re in the emotion of the circumstance.  And when people don’t take action, they don’t achieve results.

I want to achieve my goals.

Drama is the emotional response to an obstacle.  When you begin traveling the road toward success (whatever that happens to mean to you), you will hit roadblocks.  They are inevitable. Nothing ever goes as planned, even if you’re an amazing planner. To get past a problem, you’re going to need a plan.  The power of your life is in the plan of your life. To create great plans, you need to think logically and analytically.  You’ve got to step out of the emotion.  People don’t create the best strategies when they’re in the emotion of the situation.  I love helping people step out the emotion of the event and discover their logical next steps.

I want to live free.

The Drama-Free lifestyle frees you from other people’s expectations.  I want to be free to create the life I want to live. I want to live in the freedom to achieve my own goals and fulfill my desires.  People that live in drama are filled with “should’s” and “shouldn’ts.” I hear statements like, “It shouldn’t be this way.” “People should always…” “My spouse shouldn’t…”  The list goes on and on! People live in drama when there is a gap between expectation and reality.  The bigger the chasm, the more intense the drama.  Living inside this gap destroys people’s confidence because they never feel they are making progress.  Your confidence erodes when you always measure yourself to someone else’s unrealistic expectation. The crazy thing is, it’s confidence that’s required to move your reality forward.  Living Drama-Free helps you see that it’s about progress, not perfection.  When I live with a perfectionistic mindset, I procrastinate, because, in my mind, it’s never good enough.

I want to create.

I’m not a victim.  I don’t believe events happen to me, but for me.  When I chose to think circumstances happen to me, I lose control of changing the outcome.  I’m 100% responsible for my own life. And you are too. I’ve discovered that I can either complain or create, but I can’t do both at the same time.  Complaining about the obstacle doesn’t change it, only creating does.  I want to design the life that I want. And that’s what I want for you.

So what about you?  What do you want?

Are you stuck in frustration?

Are you stuck in frustration? Wasting time reacting to others instead of focusing on what matters most?

The Trigger Identifier™ is a six step proven process to help you become less reactive and more strategic. Because every problem has an emotion attached to it, you can get stuck in an endless cycle of stress and drama. But when you understand your triggers, you’ll harness the power of your emotions faster and easier.